Crafting Your Divorcée Elevator Pitch
During the first few months of my separation, I was heartbroken, displaced, and lost. When I would meet up with friends and family, they would inevitably ask the daunting question: How are you? What a loaded question. In an instant, I would melt into a puddle of tears or go on a victim-spurred bitch fest. […]
‘Live in Practice’: My philosophy for creating a bedtime routine
I washed my husband’s favorite LuLulemon sweater, and I saw this phrase inscribed at the bottom: Live in Practice. The term is the essence of my night-time routine; I live in practice. Each night will look different. There are no exact guidelines to follow to find the perfect bedtime routine; it’s trial and error. Hormones, […]
Are you married to the ghost of your partner?
When you fall in love, everything changes. Suddenly, you don’t need as much sleep (or so you think), your brain is hijacked with thoughts of that person 24/7, and you become an addict, longing to the next tex/snap/dm. Let’s face it; you’re strung out on love. I’ve been lucky enough to feel this sensation twice […]
Could A Cuisinart Change Your Mindset?
Divorce Gifting As we begin the holiday season, the idea of a divorce gift-giving guide crossed my mind. I started to brainstorm and think back to the best gift I received after my divorce. Was it the new stationery embossed with my maiden name? Or how about the ‘new lease on life’ music mix? Although […]
Giving Yourself Space, Creates Grace
For true self-improvement and change, you must take a pause. Space = Grace Above my computer, I have a post-it that reads ‘Space = Grace.’ I’m not sure what I was doing when I wrote it down, but I have learned when inspiration strikes, you better listen. In Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert, she shares […]
It’s Time for New Traditions
How to say goodbye to your holiday routine Ah, the holidays are upon us. Whatever you choose to celebrate, it’s hard not to be affected by the ‘holiday spirit’ when Christmas is practically popping up in stores before the end of Halloween. Did we forget about Thanksgiving?? Say nothing of Hannakuah. I suppose I’ll save […]
Every Mulligan Marriage Has a Purpose
I have no question that my “mulligan” marriage had a purpose. My ex-husband is the reason I moved overseas, which is where I met my current husband. The universe has a funny way of making things happen exactly as they should, even if messy and unexpected. I have a beautiful daughter and am expecting a […]
A Love of the Outdoors Helped Me Heal From My Divorce
I was married at 18 and divorced when I was 22, with a little boy to raise. I put myself through college while all of that was going, so it wasn’t an easy ride. My ex-husband remarried a couple of years later, which was a blow to my ego, although I liked his new wife. […]
Is it Time to Resuscitate Your Marriage, or Let it Go?
Do you ever feel like you are the one trying to ‘resuscitate’ your relationship and breathe life into it when things start to go stale? I can commiserate; my experience from my first marriage made me feel the same way. The difference is my husband now will rally when I ask him to. I’m not […]
What Makes You Feel Alive? Rediscovering Your True Self After Divorce
Three months into my separation, I had my moment of release. The act involved dancing fearlessly to “The Dogs Days are Over” by Florence + the Machine on top of my parent’s coffee table alone in the living room. In that short time, my personality started to shift. I no longer feared my looming divorce; […]