What Makes You Feel Alive? Rediscovering Your True Self After Divorce

Three months into my separation, I had my moment of release. The act involved dancing fearlessly to “The Dogs Days are Over” by Florence + the Machine on top of my parent’s coffee table alone in the living room. In that short time, my personality started to shift. I no longer feared my looming divorce; […]

Listen to Your Body

Every summer, like clockwork, the skin on my right-hand starts to peel. Not the ‘I’m going to rejuvenate into shiny, new skin’ type of peel, more like ‘I’m going to shed and look awkward.’ I might be oversharing, but it was the first clue from my body that my stress level was out of control. […]

Finding your Eat, Pray, Love Moments

Eat, Pray, Love, by Elizabeth Gilbert, came out in 2006, and the movie debuted in 2010, just in time for my divorce. It may sound a bit woo-woo, but do you believe that the universe brings you resources, whether they are books, articles, movies, talks, etc., when you need them? For me, this was the […]

The Rollercoaster: Stages of Divorce

Picture this; my first summer back in sunny San Diego in my early 30’s. Life should be full of sunsets, brunches, cocktails, and the beach. But not for me. Instead, I was riding a rollercoaster of emotions. One day I was balling my eyes out; the next day, I was on cloud nine with relief. […]

Journaling 101

A decade ago, I started journaling. It helped me navigate one of the most challenging periods of my life, my divorce. The suggestions in this post can apply to anyone feeling lonely, misunderstood, working through a problem, and of course, going through a divorce. If there was ever a time for journaling, it is today. […]

How to Start Journaling

Step one. You bought a journal. Step two, you put pen to paper. Step three…you are lost. Fear not, I have some journal prompts that will help you write, dictate, or type pages. Tell me about your day, this past week, or month What do you want to gain from journaling? Is this a new […]

Let’s “KonMari” Your Life: A New, Organized You

The first time I read “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing” by Marie Kondo, I cried. I finished the book on a plane flight, and tears were flowing down my cheeks. This may sound a bit insane, but you don’t know how much joy organizing brings to my […]

The Scarlet Letter: Misconceptions of Being a Divorcée

“Have a nice life.” That is the last thing I remember a relative saying to me at my grandmother’s funeral. Apparently, she believed that I would go to hell since I had an invisible scarlet letter “D” tattooed on my body. No, I didn’t commit adultery; it was even worse, I was soon to be […]