Listen to Your Body

Every summer, like clockwork, the skin on my right-hand starts to peel. Not the ‘I’m going to rejuvenate into shiny, new skin’ type of peel, more like ‘I’m going to shed and look awkward.’ I might be oversharing, but it was the first clue from my body that my stress level was out of control. […]

Finding a Part of Me with Katy Perry

On a Friday night, I found a part of me with Katy Perry…and I liked it! In the early days of my divorce, I found myself alone on a Friday night in my new “old” home (aka my parent’s house). My folks were out on a date night, and I started scrolling through Netflix. The […]

Sharing My Why

“If there’s a book that you want to read, but it hasn’t been written yet, then you must write it”– Toni Morrison For years I have been dreaming of this blog, and then one day, I heard Toni Morrison’s quote and thought, Lauren, it’s time. Start writing the blog that you wanted to read. I […]

Finding your Eat, Pray, Love Moments

Eat, Pray, Love, by Elizabeth Gilbert, came out in 2006, and the movie debuted in 2010, just in time for my divorce. It may sound a bit woo-woo, but do you believe that the universe brings you resources, whether they are books, articles, movies, talks, etc., when you need them? For me, this was the […]

The Rollercoaster: Stages of Divorce

Picture this; my first summer back in sunny San Diego in my early 30’s. Life should be full of sunsets, brunches, cocktails, and the beach. But not for me. Instead, I was riding a rollercoaster of emotions. One day I was balling my eyes out; the next day, I was on cloud nine with relief. […]

Do You Bumble? Creating a Mindset for Dating

Tinder, Bumble, Match, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, eHarmony, and at a low point, OK Cupid. I tried them all, ladies! I met my ex-husband organically at a bar. When I entered into my next round of dating, I was totally clueless and excited about the opportunities. Are you telling me that I can swipe through […]

Journaling 101

A decade ago, I started journaling. It helped me navigate one of the most challenging periods of my life, my divorce. The suggestions in this post can apply to anyone feeling lonely, misunderstood, working through a problem, and of course, going through a divorce. If there was ever a time for journaling, it is today. […]

How to Start Journaling

Step one. You bought a journal. Step two, you put pen to paper. Step three…you are lost. Fear not, I have some journal prompts that will help you write, dictate, or type pages. Tell me about your day, this past week, or month What do you want to gain from journaling? Is this a new […]

The Scarlet Letter: Misconceptions of Being a Divorcée

“Have a nice life.” That is the last thing I remember a relative saying to me at my grandmother’s funeral. Apparently, she believed that I would go to hell since I had an invisible scarlet letter “D” tattooed on my body. No, I didn’t commit adultery; it was even worse, I was soon to be […]

Saying Goodbye: A Formal Release Of Your Partner

Have you ever watched the movie Waiting To Exhale? It’s a story about four women, all different, going through various stages of love, divorce, and life. Bernadine, played by Angela Bassett, sacrifices her career to prioritize her husband, who leaves her for another woman. Usually poised and passive, she transforms into her inner badass after […]