The Rollercoaster: Stages of Divorce

Picture this; my first summer back in sunny San Diego in my early 30’s. Life should be full of sunsets, brunches, cocktails, and the beach. But not for me. Instead, I was riding a rollercoaster of emotions. One day I was balling my eyes out; the next day, I was on cloud nine with relief. […]

Do You Bumble? Creating a Mindset for Dating

Tinder, Bumble, Match, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, eHarmony, and at a low point, OK Cupid. I tried them all, ladies! I met my ex-husband organically at a bar. When I entered into my next round of dating, I was totally clueless and excited about the opportunities. Are you telling me that I can swipe through […]

Journaling 101

A decade ago, I started journaling. It helped me navigate one of the most challenging periods of my life, my divorce. The suggestions in this post can apply to anyone feeling lonely, misunderstood, working through a problem, and of course, going through a divorce. If there was ever a time for journaling, it is today. […]

How to Start Journaling

Step one. You bought a journal. Step two, you put pen to paper. Step three…you are lost. Fear not, I have some journal prompts that will help you write, dictate, or type pages. Tell me about your day, this past week, or month What do you want to gain from journaling? Is this a new […]

Let’s “KonMari” Your Life: A New, Organized You

The first time I read “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing” by Marie Kondo, I cried. I finished the book on a plane flight, and tears were flowing down my cheeks. This may sound a bit insane, but you don’t know how much joy organizing brings to my […]

The Scarlet Letter: Misconceptions of Being a Divorcée

“Have a nice life.” That is the last thing I remember a relative saying to me at my grandmother’s funeral. Apparently, she believed that I would go to hell since I had an invisible scarlet letter “D” tattooed on my body. No, I didn’t commit adultery; it was even worse, I was soon to be […]

Saying Goodbye: A Formal Release Of Your Partner

Have you ever watched the movie Waiting To Exhale? It’s a story about four women, all different, going through various stages of love, divorce, and life. Bernadine, played by Angela Bassett, sacrifices her career to prioritize her husband, who leaves her for another woman. Usually poised and passive, she transforms into her inner badass after […]

10 Questions to Release Expectations

No matter what stage of your life you are in, I have found one thing true. Unreasonable expectations can kill joy. Sound dramatic? Think about the last time you were severely disappointed and take a minute to peel back the layers. Did someone disappoint you? Did they meet your expectations? Did you clearly outline your […]

10 Ways to Heal Quicker After a Divorce

“Healing takes time.” We have all heard it, especially when you go through a change. I had NEVER heard the phrase when I wanted to, but have ALWAYS heard it when I needed to. By nature, I am impatient, busy, and a doer—my number one value: achievement. From the moment my separation began, I looked […]